FLP eBook 13 - 11 Keys For Dealing With Difficult People Plus Attaining Personal Peace Of Mind
Ask Yourself. Am I Present? Awaken the Observer and Come Present to Now.
With great gratitude, appreciation and praise we welcome you to the creation space of self love, courage, inspiration and the peace of mind that comes from gently balancing and lowering your brainwaves.
Listening to this THETA wave will assist you in creating a transformative meditative state, that will quiet your mind, relieve tension in your body, soothe your spirit, and help you remember how good it feels to be fully present in this beautiful moment of now.
Listen to this THETA brainwave as you study the following lesson.
Tired of Dealing With Difficult People?
Most people are fairly easy to deal with while others are a struggle any way you look at it. The methods we use to deal with the reasonable people just won't work with their less rational counterparts.
Since we must deal with all of them, here are some tactics for “training” those who would take over, run everything and not allow the rest of us a vote:
11 Keys for dealing with difficult people
1. Own your power and hang onto it once you get possession. It is highly recommended that you proceed to Owning Your Power before continuing on with this process.
2. Know what is most important to you. Clarify your values.
3. What Are My Values is a good place to start with what is most important to you. Get a good fix on what you are committed to and stick to it. Be willing to stand up for what you believe in and step into confrontation if it is indicated. Bullies rely on your good manners and passive attitude. Stand up to terrorists.
4. Have strong, Clear Boundaries. Delineate exactly what is and is not acceptable behavior in your life. What you will tolerate and what you will not tolerate in your space. Open up your mouth and let people know up with which you will not put.
5. Communicate and enforce your boundaries. Remember how dense most humans are…they have to be told absolutely everything six (6) times before they learn it. So develop the talent of reminding (without any “spin” on your words until they have it lodged deeply into their little cranium that there are some specific behaviors that just don't work for you.
6. When someone makes a request of you, check it out kinesthetically to see how it resonates in your body. The body is the fastest access to your personal truth. Jerry Stocking teaches that the information travels faster than the speed of light in your kinesthetic body (and that is really pretty fast…much faster and much more accurate than going into everything you “think” about it. See Personal Integrity for more information on this subject.
7. Know how to say “no” powerfully and with easyness.
8. Know how to delay when confronted with an unappealing request. Simply tell the person “I will look at that”. When they request an update, you can say “ I am still looking at that”. When you have finally determined that you aren't going to fulfill their request, you can tell them “I have looked at that, and it doesn't work for me.”
9. Communicate from a neutral, unattached manner. Leave out all the drama and apology. Come from the adult part of yourself, not the terrified or apologetic child or the domineering parent.
10. Get distance from toxic people who won't be trained and who won't honor your boundaries. Fire and banish the vampires and terrorist. They are just to high maintenance to keep around.
11. Protect yourself. Do not give others your vote. Have very straight conversations with them and step over nothing. If they say something questionable, question it. Ask “what is that…what is that about?” and let them explain. Check it out kinesthetically (look down to right) and see how what they say and do resonates in your body. If it doesn't feel good, then open up your mouth and make a request or a declaration.
Attaining Personal Peace Of Mind
Have you ever wanted to silence the endless chatter going on in your head? Tired of listening the debates? Want to put an end to the raging dictator between your ears? Here is the first step in a series of exercises to evict the enemy who has outposts established in your head.
Carl Jung, the eminent Swiss psychiatrist, was the father of Jungian Art Therapy. According to this method, subconscious issues can be brought to light and dealt with by means of art. Painting, drawing and sculpture are each effective methods, however many of us are not sufficiently skilled in these to produce effective images of what is going on in our heads in a timely manner.
We are, however, each capable of tearing other people's images and drawings from magazines and assembling our own art therapy images. Drawing on these projected images gives us access to the sub conscious and a handle to manage them.
1. Think of and feel about a disturbing issue or circumstance, which is taking up a lot of the available airtime in your consciousness.
2. Write it down, because sure as anything, you will forget what you are up to if you don't.
3. Gather the following supplies:
Old news and financial magazines
National Geographic and Rolling Stone are good, too.
Scissors
Glue Stick
A piece of paper or card stock; we like 8-1/2 x 11
4. Keeping the issue in mind, flip through the magazine tearing out any images which illustrate the issue or circumstance you want to clear out. Keep gathering until you have at least five representational images.
5. Trim and arrange the images on the paper in a manner which is appealing to you.
6. Write the issue or circumstance you are clearing on the back of your collage.
7. Look at each image you have attached to the collage and make up a sentence that says what the image communicates to you.
8. Continue this process until all images have at least one sentence.
9. Some images may provoke many sentences. Collect all of them Your sentences may be positive or negative. If the issue is disturbing, the sentences will be mostly negative.
10. Great! You have now isolated a portion of the chatter and removed it from your mind to the paper. You should feel some relief and power from these first few steps.
11. Take a second piece of paper and write a new version of how you want the negative sentences to be. For example:
Negative: People don't listen to me.
Positive: People love to hear what I say.
12. For the time being, simply collect and review these new positive statements.
13. Settle back and review your collage and see your new self in bloom.