FLP eBook 15 - Six Steps To Owning Your Power In Life Plus Boundaries - How To Install and Defend Them
Ask Yourself. Am I Present? Awaken the Observer and Come Present to Now.
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It is difficult if not impossible to get your mission accomplished if you do not own all of your natural and inherent power. Many of us consciously and unconsciously give our power to others, often because of self-esteem issues or habits that have been perpetuated for many years (such as in parent/child relationships).
The following process is to be used if you feel you have lost your power and is designed to empower you instantly and permanently so that you can be more productive and satisfied.
STEPS
1. Take Your Inventory
Check in with yourself mentally and make a note of what you generally believe to be the percentage of your personal power under your control - i.e., Me =30%
2. Locate Your Lost Power
Note who exactly has the other parts of your power. Assign percentages that are "about right" most of the time (if you think about it, you will notice that the percentages depend on the day, situation and who you are with). Don't worry about getting it exactly right - rather simply attempt to "ballpark" it for yourself.
Mom =20%
Dad =10%
Job = 20%
Tim = 10%
Sally =10%
This number, including your own portion of 30%, should now add up to 100% of your power. Now you know why it is hard for you to be effective in the world when you are operating with less than all of your power most or even all of the time.
Historical Note
As children, our parents and society control us. For the first 5 years of our lives we accept everything completely as the truth and then tend to spend the rest of our lives defending it. Adults usurp our power for the very good reason that we, being immature and without experience, need to be protected until we are adults. Unfortunately, there is rarely transference of our power back to us after we have become adults (coming of age ceremonies in many indigenous cultures are one example of explicit transference). The purpose of this process is to accomplish just that, the retrieval of our power back to where it belongs.
3. Use The Power Of Your Imagination To Call The Other Person In
Starting with the first person on the list after yourself, call that person's (or situation, like "job") name out loud three times. Remember that energy has no boundaries and, like light, travels at 186,000 miles per second. This will summon their "energetic presence" into your space. Notice that you can sense their presence in the room.
4. Demand the Return of Your Power:
Say out loud "Give me my power back now."
Be open to receive and without judgment.
Notice what percentage they return to you. If they do not give you all your power back the first time, demand it again.
If they return all your power, than thank them for returning it to you and ask them to never take your power again (out loud).
5. For Those Who Refuse to Give Your Power Back:
Tell them "This is the last time I will ask you nicely for the return of my power. If you do not give it back to me, I will take it back and I guarantee you will not like the way I take it. GIVE ME MY POWER BACK, NOW!"
If they return all your power, than thank them for returning it to you and tell them to never take your power again.
6. Are You Ready For This…Combat With the Stubborn (this may sound extreme; please keep in mind that this is an energetic process only and will not harm either person):
For the person who refuses to give your power back,
1. Imagine knocking the person down to the floor.
2. Imagine placing your left foot over their heart.
3. Imagine sucking all your power as well as their personal power into your body through the sole of your left foot.
4. Notice how you feel having reclaimed all your power from them.
5. Remove your foot from their heart and imagine placing your right hand over their heart. Return their power back to them through your right hand back into their heart. Have them stand back up as you re-energize them.
6. Continue through the list until you have regained and own 100% of your power.
7. Own and Lock in the Power.
Notice how this feels kinesthetically in your body. Move your eyes down and to the right as you bask in the new sensation of owning all of your power. Place your thumbs and pointer fingers together and re-experience the feeling of owning all your power while looking down to the right. This will create a powerful anchor, and each time you place your fingers in this position, you will be returned to this place where you feel all your power.
So, the next time you have to give a speech, make a presentation or meet with a powerful or intimidating person, remember to place your thumbs and pointer fingers together to regain that powerful feeling.
Boundaries - How To Install and Defend Them
What is a boundary?
A boundary is an imaginary fence drawn around your Self that is designed to protect and let out the undefended Self and allow it a safe place to grow.
STEPS
1. Create a Display:
Take a piece of paper and write the word "Self" in the center of the page about
two inches tall. Draw a boundary around it…careful to allow space for growth.
2. Determine Behaviors You Will Not Allow:
In the space outside the boundary, list all the behaviors that you are NOT WILLING TO TOLERATE in your space. i.e. yelling, personal telephone calls while I am at work, criticism, racism, creating a mess, unsafe driving, telephone calls after 9pm, illegal drug use, etc.
3. Communicate Your Boundaries:
In a neutral, non energy charged voice, announce casually in conversation that you have drawn a boundary that excludes certain behaviors and tell your communities what you are no longer willing to accept in your life. This can be done lovingly in the course of a normal conversation, or it can be announced if that specific boundary has just been violated. The key here is to do this in a neutral, unaffected voice.
Historical Note
Human beings rarely learn things from one experience or exposure to new data. You will have to repeat your boundary (probably six times) before it is learned.
Be prepared to NEUTRALLY REPEAT the boundary. Simply say "I would like to remind you that I have a boundary about _____. I request that you not _____ in my presence. Would you be willing to honor that?
4. From time to time, re-visit your boundaries and check to see if it is time to install additional boundaries to allow more space for Self to grow and expand.