LSR eBook 3 - What Men Really Want & What Women Really Want
Ask Yourself. Am I Present? Awaken the Observer and Come Present to Now.
With great gratitude, appreciation and praise we welcome you to the creation space of self love, courage, inspiration and the peace of mind that comes from gently balancing and lowering your brainwaves.
Listening to this THETA wave will assist you in creating a transformative meditative state, that will quiet your mind, relieve tension in your body, soothe your spirit, and help you remember how good it feels to be fully present in this beautiful moment of now.
Listen to this THETA brainwave as you study the following lesson.
What Men Really Want
An insight into the mind and make-up of the opposite sex can be an invaluable tool, especially in relationships. As with most things, the subject of what men really want from women has been the topic of many debates... and quite a few arguments!
We are sure that many of you have heard a guy say something along the lines of, "I would sleep with her, but would marry her (another woman)." Well, what does that actually mean? It means that, when it comes to relationships, a guy has two main focuses: sex and companionship. The ideal woman, therefore, would satisfy both!
With regards to sex, contrary to popular belief, it is not looks that drives a man wild, it's attitude. He wants a woman to captivate his imagination. Someone that oozes confidence in every way: the way she walks, talks, dresses and looks. He wants a woman that, while she holds herself with class, also portrays that she wants him as much as he wants her. He wants someone that will play with his emotions sexually, someone that will tease him, force him to chase her and yet will also allow him to capture her... a little bit at a time :-)
On the other hand, he also, more than anything, wants a soul mate and a friend. Someone who is loving, caring, affectionate and tender. Someone he can talk to and also have fun with. He wants someone that will love him unconditionally. Someone who is there for him when he needs her, yet also someone who he can be there for too.
He is looking for a best friend that will laugh at his jokes, no matter how dumb they are. Someone that will take an interest in the things he likes, even sports. Someone that will not try to change him, yet at the same time will help him to improve and grow where it is needed. He wants someone that will trust, respect and admire him, despite all his faults. His ideal partner will focus on his good qualities more than they criticize his faults.
If there were a set of guidelines for how to make a man feel special, this list expresses it wonderfully:
1. Told him I wouldn't change anything about him.
2. Didn't interrupt him when he spoke.
3. I was his biggest fan and had faith in him even when he doubted himself.
4. Listened to head banger music (even though I'm mostly blues).
5. Laughed at his dumb jokes (even the blonde ones).
6. Watched NASCAR racing with him (and liked it).
7. Helped him launch the boat (even though it scares me and he knows it).
8. Baked him M&M cookies.
9. Respected him.
10. Trusted him completely.
11. Threw my cats out of my bed when he was here.
12. Drove when he was tired.
13. Looked in his eyes and listened when he talked.
14. Admired his muscles.
15. Always took his side.
What Women Really Want
An inside look at the feminine side of things...
Over the past few years we have all seen news and magazine reports on what women really want in a man. We have had stereotypes created and thrown at us from all directions and they always seem to change, depending on what station you watch or what newspaper/magazine you read. In the 80's we had the Yuppie, a man driven by material wealth and the pursuit of acquisition and social status that had women swooning all over the place. The 90's saw the advent of "new man" - the strong, sensitive type that would think nothing of helping out with the dishes, doing the laundry or changing diapers. With all these schools of thought offering different opinions on what the current ideal male should be, we decided to turn to do a little research on the subject and come up with our own conclusions.
The ideal man is actual a variant of the 80's male in that he is still has a take charge, strong personality but he has also met his match - the woman. Now, in order to fully understand what the ideal man should be, one really has to understand women. A woman is no longer, and hasn't been for quite some time, the weaker sex. She just likes to be looked after and romanced. She likes to be swept of her feet just as much as she likes to be in control and she wants a man that has the ability to allow both sides of her character to flourish, without being a wimp. He can be kind and sensitive, but he can never be a victim. Masculinity is a huge turn on for women. That does not mean that he has to have the body of Hercules, but he must be someone she can proudly show off to her friends and associates. While he does not have to be wealthy or have a great job, he does need to offer security for the woman. He needs to be strong in his convictions, well spoken and have personal goals. In other words, he must have dreams and have the ability to achieve them. If things don't go his way, he gets on with life rather than feels sorry for himself. He also has to be an excellent lover, husband and father.
Now what this actually means in real life varies with each woman, but the basics are pretty much as described above. Today's man is actually closer to the classical John Wayne type hero than anything else, in that he is strong and full of character and willing to take charge, but more importantly, he needs to offer security to the woman in his life. I guess what we are really trying to say here is that, guys, it is not really as hard as you have been led to believe. You can be a woman's Prince Charming, just be self-confident, articulate and believe in yourself!