RELATIONSHIP INSIGHTS THAT WILL TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE - DAY 18
The Art of the Breath and Light Meditations. Ask Yourself… Am I Present? Meditate.Breathe.Connect. Awaken the Observer and Come Present to Now. -The Transformation Team
With great gratitude, appreciation and praise we welcome you to the creation space of self love, courage, inspiration and the peace of mind that comes from gently balancing and lowering your brainwaves.
Listening to this THETA wave will assist you in creating a transformative meditative state, that will quiet your mind, relieve tension in your body, soothe your spirit, and help you remember how good it feels to be fully present in this beautiful moment of now.
Listen to this THETA brainwave as you study the following lesson.
25 Surefire Steps on How To Get A Great New Boyfriend or Girlfriend!
Just follow these quick and easy steps and we guarantee that you will have not just one, but as many boyfriends or girlfriends as you want. First you will need to take stock of who you are, your self image, and what you want in a relationship. Next you will need to practice some techniques in the areas of communication and honesty. Finally you will need to take stock of your feelings about sex and what you really like in that area. This may be a bit awkward to think about, an we provide some quite explicit instructions in this area but sex obviously a very important part of any relationship!
1. Look at yourself in the mirror. Tell yourself that you are sexy, handsome, beautiful and special and any man or woman should be proud to have you as his girlfriend or boyfriend. Do this every day for 21 days and be sure to say it out loud while looking directly into your eyes in the mirror.
2. Write down on a sheet of paper your greatest ambition; like losing weight, changing your hair, new job, making money, college, taking a trip or having dinner in a pleasant and expensive restaurant. Anything that you believe will make you feel good at the moment.
3. Whatever you have written above you will have to do or at least start in the next 24 hours. You must make it come true or at least start doing it. But be honest with yourself; sitting and waiting for the phone to ring won't get you anywhere.
4. Be totally genuine with yourself and think about why you do not have a partner at this moment. Allow yourself the time to think and do not let yourself get away with your mind wandering every time you get close to an uncomfortable realization!
5. Describe the right man or woman for you. Be honest and think about everything that you like. What age? What race? What professional field? Is he or she a smoker or a non-smoker? An athlete? business person, artist or lover? How healthy is his or her bank account, family background? Divorced or single? Does he or she already have children? Is he or she particularly intelligent or intellectual, or is this not important? How do you like to spend time? Is sense of humor important? What about sex? Do you want someone who is usually quiet and calm or boisterous and loves to spend time with lots of people?
6. If you already know a man or woman that you would like to be your partner, go after him or her. Call them, set up a date and tell them exactly what your expectations are. e completely honest. This may be scary but if you get in the habit of doing it you won't have to waste any more time wondering how they feel about you and playing all those stupid games. You will be surprised at how often the person is thinking the same thing about you..and amazed at the level of relief you will feel when you know for sure where things stand! Rest assured that after the first three or four times you've been honest about your feelings for someone it will be almost easy.
7. Ask yourself what your real goal is: to meet many partners and have lots of sexual and intimate experiences that are quick but pleasurable and exciting or do you want to meet a person for a long-lasting relationship, stable but not less pleasurable and exciting. Be honest. Not everyone truly wants a long term relationship at every point in their life. Most of us have some periods, like after a break-up of a long relationship, or other situations, in which, deep down we just want some fun and variety. We need to be honest with ourselves and with those we are spending time with when this is the case.
8. Think about whether you are ready to change your life completely in order to find a steady partner. Will you move to another city? Will you change your job? Will you accept them if they have children?
9. Set up a plan for yourself: Where can you spend time that you might meet someone? Many people use singles bars or classified ads, but sometimes a great way is to spend time with groups that share your interests - hiking, photography, art, dance, meditation groups, etc. Are you going to find them in the classifieds? Are you going to place an ad? Are you going to use a dating agency? Would you prefer to go to a single's bar? Decide what you want to do and do it, but do it today!
10. Evaluate yourself. Are you happy with your hair, your body, your clothes, and your nails? You have to like yourself above all things, no matter what; otherwise you won't convince any person to like you. Make the first move. If you encounter something that you don't like, change it! Make an appointment and change your hairstyle. But don't worry about your weight, if that is something that doesn't bother you. If you weigh more than the average person and you feel good about yourself - don't change it! Or even if you are too skinny and like being like this, don't worry!
The only thing you have to do is to love yourself and accept yourself the way you are. Be honest and always be the real you; don't try to be someone that you are not! On the contrary, you will be making a fool of yourself and will be fooling your partner too. There is someone for everyone, and when attraction hits, the details don't really matter at all!
11. Rethink your wardrobe. Make a list of everything you want to have and need in order to have an interesting wardrobe. If you need to buy something, do it in the next 24 hours. If you don't have any money now, use your credit card or wait until your nnext paycheck, but make that your deadline!
12. You know those tight leather jeans or sexy lingerie that you have always wanted? Go ahead and buy it now! Don't worry about what other people may think; after all, you are the master of your own destiny and no one else!
13. Girls, how long has it been since you've given yourself a gift? Don't procrastinate any longer and give yourself that beauty treatment you've always wanted. Get beautiful and feel beautiful.
14 Guys and girls, if you are uncomfortable talking and having a conversation, change this situation now! Start reading everything you can, Newsweek, Time, read the paper, Cosmopolitan. Go to the movies, to the theater. Practice possible conversations and opening lines in your head, and practice with anyone you run into- the store, in the street, anywhere so you are ready when that special someone is standing or sitting next to you.
15 Learn about dating...find tips and tricks in magazines and books and try them out on friends or in your mind. You will be surprised at what you find out...and at how many opportunities arise when you begin focusing on what you want - to find a new boy-friend or girlfriend - and taking steps to do that instead for just wishing for one without doing anything differently.
16. Think about your favorite sexual fantasy. If you don't have one, maybe it's time for you to find one. There's nothing to be ashamed about in having sexual fantasies; it is really healthy. What would it be? To have sex with a great movie star? Costumes and role-playing? Sex in odd places? To have sex with two men or women at the same time? Think about it right now!
17. Write down everything you have always wanted to try with your sexual partner, like oral sex, sex on a beach or in nature, masturbation, just foreplay until you both have an orgasm....all the things you secretly wanted in past relationships but never spoke up...this is your chance to get clear on what is important to you in the sexual arena.
18. Make a list of everything that you have never wanted to try in sex and why. Think about it. Think how you would answer your partner if he asked you to do something you didn't want to do?
19. Think about whether there are sex toys that you want to try and don't waste time- buy them! If you are too embarrassed to do it, order by mail or through the Internet, but be brave and remember that it is your sex life and nobody else's, and the only opinion that matters is yours. Experimenting and finding out what you like is not only fun but it can empower you when you start that new relationship!
20. Learn about everything concerning your body. Which areas are more sensitive? What excites you the most? Men, masturbate without coming and build up your endurance and ability to hold yourself back. Girls, hold open your vagina and look at yourself in the mirror. This is your body and you must learn about your reactions and sensations. Masturbate in front of the mirror and watch your reactions, the color or your vulva changing, your clitoris. Both of you must learn what happens to your body when you are touched. Learn which touches excite you the most, which position is the best one, so you will be able to show your partner the right path to your passion. Men and women really do appreciate being told what their partner likes.
21. Believe that this is the day that your life is going to change. Believe that you will find a boyfriend, girlfriend or sex partner and that you have to do it now. You are your own boss; you control your life! Only you know what really pleases you. There are many ways of finding this someone, but you have to try, go for it, everything depends on your will and desires.
22. Don't be ashamed if you don't know much about sex, that's why we are talking about it and there's more available. No matter how long it takes you to be certain about some issues; the important thing is that you start considering them.
23. Be a sex god and goddess and start with yourself. If you feel loved and sexy, we guarantee that any man or woman will feel the same toward you. Go for it!
24. But don't forget about a rather unpleasant detail: Sexually transmitted diseases. You must always have a condom, because STD's and AIDS can happen to anyone. Don't have sex without a condom even if you know your partner. And if he or she says that they won't have sex with you using contraception, don't do it.
25. And never do something that you don't like just to please the other person. Be yourself always!!!
Love Your Now,
The Transformation Team
Half a Dozen Things to do Daily
1) Make a decision to commit to discovering your greatness. When one commits, then all providence moves in your favor. "I choose to commit, explore, and to know that I am an evolving, unlimited Being."
2) Meditate daily and listen to brainwave meditations. Set up a schedule and stick to it.
3) Read and complete each day of the 21 day program. Read 10 pages of a supporting eBook for that day.
4) Find time to be IN silence often, and at least weekly. (No TV, Internet, radio, telephone, or conversations of any kind) while observing a practice of non-judgment. Really try to have NO preferences or opinions and say cancel, cancel, cancel to any inner contrary conversations.
5) Daily review the work you've done in this course. Check your email, review your journal. Begin each day, after your meditation, by writing down your top 10 positive intentions again.
6) Spend time daily thinking, fantasizing, and seeing yourself having already accomplished these goals in this eternal moment of NOW.